Prince Harry has opened up about his grief over Diana's death.
August 31st marks the 20th anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. As the world still mourns the loss of ‘the people’s princess’, her beloved sons have opened up about their own struggles in talking openly about the death of their mother.
The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry sat down for an open and honest conversation about mental health as part of their campaign ‘Heads Together’.
‘Heads Together’ aims to normalise the conversations around mental health and so far the royals have done a brilliant job of raising awareness for their cause.
Talking to the “amazingly close” brothers, Kate opened up a conversation about how they dealt with the loss of their mother, Princess Diana.
“I think it’s incredible how strong you’ve been, and how you’ve been able to cope” Kate said.
“We have been brought closer because of the circumstances” William responded. “You are uniquely bonded because of what we’ve been through.”
However, despite being brought closer together, the Princes also admit that they have struggled to talk about how the devastating loss of their mother at such a young age has affected them.
“Harry and I have not talked enough about our mother” William confides. “Never enough” Harry adds.
“Both of us have always been open to each other saying, you know, we never really talked about it, losing our mum at such a young age” Harry revealed to Kate in the video.
In a moment of honesty about his feelings, Harry also reveals, “I always thought to myself, what’s the point of bringing up the past? What’s the point of bringing up something that’s only going to make you sad? It ain’t going to change it, it isn’t going to being her back.”
It’s not the first time Prince William and Prince Harry have opened up about his experience of loss…
Whilst visiting a centre focused on child bereavement Prince William shared his own experiences of losing a loved one to comfort a little girl grieving for her father. Talking about the death of his mother, Princess Diana, William confided in the little girl, “I lost my mummy when I was very young too. I was 15 and my brother was 12.”
The Prince also took the time to share his advice on how he has learnt to cope with the grief. “Do you speak about your daddy?” William asked Aoife, nine. “It’s very important to talk about it. Very, very important.”
Aoife’s mother, Marie, said afterwards, “I couldn’t believe it when he started to talk about his mother. It was very emotional and I was willing myself not to start to cry. I almost did.”
“Tomorrow is the sixth anniversary to losing my husband.To be honest it will be just another day for us. It’s the moments that you don’t expect when it hits you. Like when you used to sit down and watch the TV together in companionable solitude.”
“I still miss my mother every day and it’s 20 years after she died”
The Duke of Cambridge was also pictured previously comforting 14-year-old Ben Hines on a visit to the Keech hospice in Luton last year. After the young boy bravely spoke of losing his mother to cancer last year, Prince William put out a comforting hand and said, “I know how you feel. I still miss my mother every day and it’s 20 years after she died”.
The Duke also offered advice to the young boy and his brothers, sharing that, “time makes it easier” and saying that because, “men are not great sharers” they must promise to keep talking to each other about their emotions and feelings.
Speaking about bereavement at an event at Kensington Palace for Heads Together, Prince Harry also revealed that he ‘really regrets’ not talking about his grief over his mother’s death until three years ago.
Prince Harry confessed that he didn’t speak about his mother’s death ‘for the first 28 years of my life’. He also said that he had come to realise how important it is to talk through your feelings.
‘It is OK to suffer, but as long as you talk about it. It is not a weakness. Weakness is having a problem and not recognising it and not solving that problem,’ he told BBC Breakfast.
Harry’s comments highlight the stigma that’s often to attached to sharing your emotions with others. Figures have shown that this reluctance seems to particularly prevalent amongst men.
A study conducted about by neurologists at Mindlab revealed that 67% of men actually feel more emotional than they let on.
Prince Harry was just 12 when his mother, the Princess of Wales, was killed in a car crash in 1997. And the event is not the first time he has shared his heartbreak about the loss of his mother.
Prince Harry opened up in an interview with Good Morning Britain ahead of the Invictus Games this year. He revealed that he often wonders “what it would be like if she [Diana] was here”. He went on to confess that he was “never going to be able” to fill her boots.
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We think the Princes and Kate have done a fantastic job with their ‘Heads Together’ campaign. Between them, they have raised a huge amount of awareness about mental health. The royal trio will continue their work surrounding removing the stigma attached to mental health issues for years to come.