Most brides will tell you that planning a wedding is one of the most exciting, enjoyable tasks that one can undertake – and they’d be right.
By the time I get married (in 6 weeks and 2 days by the way!) I will have been engaged for 23 months. A fair old chunk of time you might say, but it’s allowed us to not only save up but actually savour every moment of the planning process. It’s been simply lovely but as we approach the final stages, we’ve started to experience the bridal backlash.
Bridal backlash, n. An antagonist reaction or comment from guests about one or more aspects of the Big Day, resulting in increased levels of stress for the bride and groom.
One relative has been rather vocal about our invitations. Like a lot of modern couples we produced the invites ourselves and spent many weekends agonising over card thickness, typefaces and wording. The final, very monochromatic result, FYI, was a typewriter-style font on cream card, wrapped in a satin bow and placed in a black cardboard box. Our aforementioned guest thought she was being summoned to a funeral, such was her disbelief at seeing a black and white wedding invitation. I feel we may have to warn her about the black bridesmaids’ dresses, black groomsmens’ suits and black centerpieces just so she doesn’t pass out on the day.
It might sounds tedious to you – surely I should just brush it off as a difference of taste – but this is just one of a few sticking points we’ve faced over the last few weeks and I can’t help but think what a shame it is that people are so flippin’ mean.
So my dear guests – you may not like my dress, might hate the groom’s speech and would never have chosen pork for a main – but please, whatever you do, don’t tell ME!
By Stephanie Maylor
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