Break ups are rubbish. There’s no getting around that. And ok, the last thing you may way when you’re going through it is some lame break up advice. But bear with us, this stuff actually works.

If you are in the process of getting over somebody, the good news is you’re not alone. Everyone has had their heart broken at some point. Remember your primary school crush? Still stings, right.

And whether you’re feeling rejected by somebody else, or if it was you that did the ditching, it can be hard to get over. Rejection, regret, loss and guilt are all thrown into the mix, all while you’re trying to get on with everyday life. Yep, break ups can be pretty tiring.

So we have some advice to help you along on the road to recovery, and it doesn’t involve downing cartons of Ben & Jerry’s in the bath. Sorry, Bridget.

These are the things you need to remember when you’re going through a break up…

Remember…

No room for doom and gloom here. We are a sum of all our experiences and often learn the most from the bad ones. If you’re angry, shout, throw things if you wish and vent to your nearest and dearest. Just don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s pointless.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing

And just because somebody is gone, doesn’t mean it’s forever. It might just not be right at that time.

This one can be tough to stick to, but ALWAYS keep your pride

Because 9 times out of 10, they’re not even worth it

And you should never stay with someone because you’re scared of being alone

Sometimes, you just need to have a stern word with yourself Trust in the magic of new beginnings

And you might find one day you’re actually glad it happened…

And, finally, if it makes you feel better….

And, when you’re finally over your break up, inevitably there will come a time when you’ll move on. Dawn French recently opened up about how she found love again after divorce…

“Everyone is different,” she told Woman & Home. “And what worked for me might not work for others. For me it happened completely by accident.

“After Lenny I decided not to go looking for it. I had a few dates but everything felt like too much of an effort and I thought I didn’t need it. My head was in that space when I met Mark.

“I’d actually known him for a long time as he’d worked with my mother and took over her job running Hamoaze House in Plymouth, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation centre, when she retired.

“I’d just never looked at him in that way before.”