Ask Emma - My 14-year-old daughter was propositioned

Q: In a department store a few weeks ago, a man approached my 14-year-old daughter and made sexual overtures towards her. He left when he saw me but my daughter was upset by the crude language he used. Last week, I suggested my daughter wear a pretty dress to a party and she said, ‘No! Look what happened last time I wore a dress like that!’ I don’t know what to say to her.

Penny, Wirral

A: It’s important to let your daughter know that a) what happened was not her fault, and b) she is boss of her own body, so it’s OK to walk away from anyone who passes uninvited comment.

You and her dad might want to stay away from complimenting her on how she looks for the moment.

What she needs now is to hear lots of positive appreciation of how brave, clever and smart she is.

Emma Marlin, Counsellor


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