Counsellor: He's not in love with me

Q: I’ve been married for 12 years and I still love my husband. Last year, he thought he was going to be made redundant and started to pick arguments and say horrible things. Now he’s told me he is not in love with me. I wanted to go to counselling but he said it wouldn’t work. There’s no fight left in me to save us.

Harriet, via email

 A: What an awful year you’ve had! Your partner is clearly going through some kind of emotional crisis. But the reality might be that he’s actually depressed and can’t get a hold on any feelings right now. From what you tell me, I strongly encourage you to visit www.counselling-directory.org.uk.

Emma Marlin, Counsellor


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