Counsellor Q&A: Dyslexia worry

Q: My 12-year-old son has just been diagnosed with dyslexia. His primary school was really unhelpful, and it’s only thanks to his English teacher at his new secondary school that we know he has this problem. I’m concerned years of him not being able to read or write very well have severely affected his self esteem and that his confidence will never recover.

Jan, via email

A: As a parent of a dyslexic child, I really feel for you and you’re son. But, rest assured,  his confidence can recover. Here’s why and how…

1. Self-esteem isn’t fixed – it can be rebuilt. With recognition of your son’s dyslexia should come extra support. Once he’s given the help he needs, you will begin to see his confidence will rise.

2. The educational psychologist who identified his difficulties should have recommended a programme to help him at school and at home. If they didn’t, ask the school’s SENCO (Special Education Needs Counsellor) to put one in place. For more help, you could just call the British Dyslexia Association’s supportive helpline on 0845 51 9002.

3. Tell your son you respect he’s had to work hard to get this far. Your love and commitment to getting him help are not to be underestimated. Encourage him to learn touch-typing at Also, Dragon Mobile Apps has amazing computer software that turns speech to text, which can help with school assignments.

Emma Marlin, Counsellor


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