Jennifer Garner opened up about her heartbreaking divorce in the press, and now Ben Affleck has responded...
There was no doubt about it, when Jennifer Garner stepped out on to the Oscar’s red carpet last year in that flawless black gown, Ben Affleck was a fool to let her slip through his fingers.
The media has been rife with reports and rumours of the sad split between these two Hollywood A-listers since the news broke of their divorce back in June 2015. However the former couple have kept the details of the split and their feelings private…until now.
Speaking out in an emotional and empowering interview with Vanity Fair magazine, Jennifer Garner finally broke her silence on the painful break up of her marriage.
The couple’s plan to divorce was heartbreakingly announced just one day after their 10th wedding anniversary. To make things worse, just one month later, rumours began swirling that Ben Affleck had be involved with the family’s nanny, 28-year-old Christine Ouzounian. Talking to Vanity Fair, Jennifer spoke out on the subject, “Let me just tell you something, we had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It’s not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives.”
Talking about seeing her private life splashed across the news, with headlines like ‘Jennifer Garner divorce drama’, and dealing with the grief of the breakdown of her marriage, Jennifer honestly confesses, “It hurts me so much, and I care so much”.
However the 43-year-old is rising triumphant from the situation, “I cannot be driven by the optics of this. I cannot let anger or hurt be my engine. I need to move with the big picture always on my mind, and the kids first and foremost.”
Ben and Jennifer have three children together, Violet, 10, Seraphina, 7, and Sam, 4, and Garner has, “become temporary roommates” with her eldest daughter during the last few turbulent months. Unsurprisingly, she’s been having problems sleeping, and thanks American comedians Tina Fey and Amy Poehler for helping her get through long, sleepless nights.
“It was a huge priority for me to stay in it” Jennifer says, talking about the marriage, “and that did not work.” But does she have any regrets…? “I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” Jennifer said. The actress openly admits, “I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again.”
You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”
Looking to the future, Jennifer revealed that she is looking forward to, “just having a sense of humour” again, although at the moment she is still in a place where she feels, “the need to be physical and I feel the need to punch someone”.
Luckily, that person is not Ben Affleck, and Jennifer seems to have found a place where she can process the break-up free from hatred and anger, “No one needs to hate him for me. I don’t hate him. Certainly we don’t have to beat the guy up.” Jennifer says, “I’m taking good care of myself.”
Ben Affleck has been reluctant to discuss anything of his personal life with the press, especially in light of the rumours surrounding his affair, and has said that he didn’t want to initially comment on the situation, “because it ends up being in the record somewhere, in the great miasma of junk on the Internet.”
However the Hollywood actor has finally broken his silence, revealing to the New York Times that the last few months have been, “a particularly hard time.”
Referring to Jen’s tell-all interview with Vanity Fair, Ben confessed, “She felt like she wanted to discuss it and get it out there and get it over with,” he said, “so she could say, ‘Look, I already talked about it — I don’t want to do it again.’” He added: “It’s fine. She’s allowed to talk about it.”
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Jennifer Garner has been forced to speak out about her divorce again recently, after a misleading magazine cover published a false story about the star. The actress rarely speaks out in public about the press surrounding her personal life. However, in this instance the mother-of-three, “wanted to set the record straight”. The headline focused on her divorce ad ‘heartbreak’.
Jen hit back at the mag saying, “I did not pose for this cover. I did not participate in or authorize this article.” She also goes on to state, “for what it’s worth: I have three wonderful kids and my family is complete.”
Read her full statement here:
It has been brought to my attention that there is a People magazine cover and article out today that appear to be coming from me. It isn’t unusual for me to receive calls from loved ones thinking I forgot to tell them I am pregnant–with twins!–(Geez Louise), but those are so ridiculous they’re easy to ignore.
This isn’t a tragedy by any measure, but it does affect me and my family and so, before my mom’s garden club lights up her phone, I wanted to set the record straight:
I did not pose for this cover. I did not participate in or authorize this article.
While we are here, for what it’s worth: I have three wonderful kids and my family is complete.
Have a beautiful day,
People has since issued a statement standing by its “fair and truthful” story, which, the magazine says, “does not include rumours and does not say she’s pregnant,” according to the Associated Press.
Ben Affleck has also reiterated what Jennifer has previously said, emphasising that the couple are trying to remain as amicable as possible despite the difficult split, “Jen’s great. She’s a great person. We’re on great terms. I just saw her this morning, so that’s the reality that I live in.”
Ben is now trying to focus on his work and professional life, instead of his stormy personal life, “The whole lesson of my career has been that what’s really important is the work you do,” he said. “Even in the tough spots, if your movies are good, people will see them. And if you’re not good, you can’t get away with it…Eventually it catches up to you. Both ways, good and bad.”