Counsellor Q&A: He's keeping me a secret from her

Q: ‘My partner and I have been together for two years, but he still hasn’t told his 12-year-old daughter about out relationship. I can only stay at his house when she’s not there and must be silent if she rings. Why would he do this?

Gillian, 39, Derby

A: Have you asked him why you need to be a secret? We can guess it’s to do with guilt, or fear that his daughter will stop loving him but it’s just a speculation.

This situation cannot move forward until he explains this to you. Once you know his reason, you can decide whether to persuade him to relax or not. If either of you needs extra support, call the Family Lives Helpline on 0808 800 2222

Emma Marlin

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