Q: My relationship with my second husband has ended, which means me and my daughter, who is 15, need to sell our house and buy another. In the past I wouldn’t have consulted her about which house to choose, but after the emotional turmoil she’s been party to, I feel I need to make it up to her. Or do I? Friends say she will leave home in a few years, so I need to be happy too. I’m so confused. Every house we view, she bursts into tears.
A: I’m really sorry to hear about the end of your relationship – I wonder, do you have to find a house to buy straight away? Could you rent a small flat for six months until you are both a little less traumatised? I know that moving twice is not idea, and renting will eat into your capital, but buying under these pressured circumstances isn’t perfect either.
However, if a new house must be bought, I recommend you find a supportive friend who can help you weigh up the pros and cons of any potential home. That way, house hunting isn’t about making your daughter happy at your expense, or vice versa. It’s about finding the right fit for you both.