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Counsellor: Husbands secret makes me sick

Q: I’m 50 and have two daughters aged 10 and almost 15. Eight years ago, my husband exposed himself to a 15-year-old girl, who reported him to the police. Over the years my husband said he’d get help, but he never has. I never told anyone what happened, but recently have felt sick to my stomach and laid awake at night trying to work out how to leave him. Please help me.

Tina via email

A: What a dreadful secret to live with. It’s no coincidence that your feelings have reached fever pitch just as your daughter turns 15, the age of the girl your husband exposed himself to.

Even though you managed to bury it for the past eight years, from what you tell me I can understand that a part of you can’t do it any longer.

As your husband never sought help, his sexual behaviour could still present a danger. Please call Stop It Now! on 0808 1000 900  or click on www.stopitnow.org.uk.

It provides a safe place to talk about what our going through and can recommend places where you can get the one-to-one support I truly believe you need.

Emma Marlin, Counsellor

 

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