‘The change’ may be in full swing, but that doesn’t mean the fun has to stop. There are certain myths surrounding the menopause that need dispelling. Here are 6 things menopausal women are sick and tired of hearing…
- That it’s some kind of disaster
Ok the hot flushes and mood swings aren’t exactly a laugh-a-minute, but just because you’re going through a period of change, doesn’t mean you’re all of a sudden going to start losing your marbles.
Women can go through the menopause any age from 40-60, with some ages coming in even higher or lower. We’re in the prime of life, and there’s no way the menopause is getting the better of us… Oprah Winfrey said of the menopause: “I’ve discovered that this is your moment to reinvent yourself after years of focusing on the needs of everyone else.”
- That hot flushes are going to ruin your life
If you do suffer with them, hot flushes aren’t fun, we know. But it doesn’t mean you have to live in fear of the heating being turned up. Bette Midler, 69, has some great words of wisdom. She told Oprah Winfrey in a 2001 interview: “I did have night sweats and hot flashes at first. Then I did this soy-and-primrose oil thing, which helped tremendously.”
But while many menopausal women experience them, it’s not necessarily something you’ll even go through. Julie Clive, a woman who’s gone through the menopause in the last few years, said: “I am post menopause- my eyesight is no worse, my hair is fine, I can do more than one thing at once and I don’t have a beard. Oh, and yes, I am hot as hell – sexually speaking, not with hot flushes.” We like your style, Julie!
- That we’re ‘hormonal’
Yes, the mood swings exist, but calling a menopausal woman hormonal or irrational is not in your best interests (see also; menopausal rage). So please, show a little understanding and shut the heck up.
- That your husband forgot to feed the cat/cook the dinner/clean the kitchen
As much as you’re used to being super woman and turning your hand to 50 different things at once, going through the menopause is tiring. And the last thing you need is a husband who forgets to complete a simple task. Breakfast in bed also helps, husbands.
- That you’re no longer interested in sex
It’s true that typically a woman’s libido slows down during the menopause, but this doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to become a nun. I mean, just look at SATC’s Samantha Jones…
- That you’ve ran out of wine
Hot flushes, insomnia, tiredness, forgetfulness, rage and loss of libido – whether you experience just one or all of these symptoms, it can be a pretty trying time.
So pour us a large glass, please!